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Parents, Let's Nip Bad Language in the Bud

When you have kids starting High School is when it all starts, unless the parents don't control it before they enter high school.

My daughter is a sweet girl but lately I see a change in her.

One time she had told me in school the language has changed and every other word kids say is a curse or swear xx###xxx.

I was thinking the teachers are also to blame. They want to fit in with today's teens but are not strong enough to tell the kids you should not use that language in a regular conversation setting.

I would love to be a bug on the wall just to observe what happen in these classes ...teachers should step up and give our kids back to us.

They are so nasty and no respect for their elders. Get the bad mouth kids out of classes and put them on Dr. Phil. 

Beware as a parent. Stuff is going on that you might not realize.

As a working mom I can understand how parents are so stressed out, but don't lose your kids to this kind of trash...STEP UP....

L M

8:22 pm on Sunday, September 23, 2012

Ana, Where have you been? Just turn on the T.V,anything goes now. There isn't any respect for anything or anyone anymore! If everyone isn't talking about sex and erectile dysfunction , there isn't a show. These talk shows about paternity tests and who is sleeping with who. You should have checked the Middletown H.S. summer reading material. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime by Mark Haddon -uck my ---- you d--- -unt jesus f-----christ over and over again for students mandatory reading (if not in honors) going into 9th grade. This was 2 summers ago, we had to go through a nightmare to have the book taken from the list!! You have to check the reading material and everything else going on in the schools, because anything goes. This whole generation is being brought up to become low class citizens because the exposure to everyting in the media and anything goes attitude.

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Ana

9:25 pm on Sunday, September 23, 2012

I understand what is out there ,,and you did good of what you did about the summer reading ..You wanna know I have worked at my dads pizzarias when I was 10.when I became 17 I was in a co-op job in the world trade center 1 week in school 1 week in NY .I spent the next 18 years working hard and became a female trader in the commodity exchange where men were dominant I worked hard my whole life never had time to be a kid or teenager my father thought it would keep me out of trouble taking trains at 11:00 at night downtown Brooklyn ..And I grew up fast ,q I own my own business and am greatful to my dad for that and all the people who took me on at the community exchange I made a name and I respect people and got it back in return ..My boss was billionaire who had called me in his office one day I had made him some good money trading for him in my days.. In front of the whole staff of executives kissed my hand and thanked me for all my hard work.. I had received bonuses every year ..I was there in 1993 when the first bombing at WTC.. I have a son with a disability and a younger daughter ..we are also involved and started Circle of Special Friends ...Didn't want to bother you with all my life ..But it feels good to give back to your community and anything that you or others feel is wrong you have a voice use it I always do not every one will agree but I know what is right for my kids as all parents should... Be aware of all that happens and can change for the better.

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KK

12:38 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

Wow, LM, thank you so much for working so hard to get that book removed. Middletown needs more parents like you!

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Anne Frank

1:15 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

Middletown does not need censorship. Get over it. Worry about something important.

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Peter Koenig

1:27 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

Having seen children through High School, I think that their assignments, reading lists and curricular materials are important - and we vetted them, and we spoke up when there were problems. I will spare everyone a screed on the curriculum in my District (not Middletown). "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime" is unfamiliar. I venture it's not a classic of Western literature. There's a difference between assigned or suggested reading on the one hand, and "censorship" on the other. It is not unreasonable to expect that curricular materials avoid profanity - though I'd give Shakespeare a pass on "zounds" because teenagers are unlikely to repeat it.

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Ana

2:35 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

What is important? Drugs,kids killing kids it starts somewhere ..As parents we need to move in the right direction and not fall with all this..Make your kids strong but kind to their fellow humans...

Ana

2:30 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

Anne our kids are important!
Censorship -- the control of the information and ideas circulated within a society -- has been a hallmark of dictatorships throughout history. In the 20th Century, censorship was achieved through the examination of books, plays, films, television and radio programs, news reports, and other forms of communication for the purpose of altering or suppressing ideas found to be objectionable or offensive. The rationales for censorship have varied, with some censors targeting material deemed to be indecent or obscene; heretical or blasphemous; or seditious or treasonous. Thus, ideas have been suppressed under the guise of protecting three basic social institutions: the family, the church, and the state.

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Anne Frank

2:45 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

Peter - if you think teenagers - or kids in 5th grade for that matter are learning profanity from required reading in school you need to wake up. It is 2012. The only reason that kids r adults use profanity is to get a reaction from uptight people anyway.

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Ana

5:01 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

What happened to if you build it they will come..If you build a school where kids are bought to attention when they do wrong or speak incorrectly to an adult or classmate ,because they need to show off or feel superior to someone else. The politicians don't want to get involved when it comes to schools but want your vote! is that you real name ....Anne Frank

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Peter Koenig

4:52 pm on Tuesday, September 25, 2012

I agree that, sadly, profanity is ubiquitous. We all hear it, adults and children alike. My point is that school curricula should set a good example. We all hear profanity; our children should be taught not to use it. Its presence in required reading is an implicit endorsement of its use.

Eve

9:41 pm on Monday, September 24, 2012

A R,
Honestly, this is not the type of language that kids learn in their English class. In school it is expected that the kids use appropriate language whenever teachers can hear them, and usually the teachers are fairly strict about it . Do not fault the schools for this. The kids grow and start experimenting with boundaries, and the foul language is one of the least harmful things to try. They learn from their peers and media, even if they never hear it at home. Yes, establish whatever boundaries you are comfortable with at home, but do not start a hysterical anti-cursing crusade. They are teenagers, this is a phase.

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Ana

6:32 am on Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Yes maybe making a big issue ,just when bought home to other siblings that are younger it is not a switch that can be turned off and stop ,this becomes their way of talking I was bought up in a bilingual home the only one who sweared was my dad.. We Respected them did not curse ...

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beachlover

10:00 am on Tuesday, September 25, 2012

I remember being in middle school and that was when you started cursing around your friends only. You never did it around your parents or other adults, but now it seems like the kids just don't care. They will curse in front of anyone. While I agree that it's harmless, it's still disrespectful and that is the real problem. Kids do not respect adults anymore and they certainly aren't afraid of them. When I was a kid I both respected and feared my parents. And by feared I mean, I was afraid of getting punished. Parents need to follow through with their punishments and they just don't. Kids just walk all over them now.

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Ana

10:21 am on Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Yes you are absolutly correct about not following through.. Because our lives have become so stressed and busy --The response to a kid that is misbehaving or has a foul mouth has become not as noticed I feel our brains have become accustomed with it .. a good bar of soap will do just like the good old days... i always sing to my kind that Dick Van Dyke song .. Kids" " WHY CAN'T THEY BE LIKE WE WERE PERFECT IN EVERY WAY WANTS THE MATTER WITH KIDS TODAY"

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